My sex drive is high but not that high, not as high as his anyway. We have sex almost every night and it’s very fulfilling. I used look forward to spending the evenings with him, and it was always passionate. He was caring and loving, always making sure my needs were met as well as his. He loves a blowjob, and this has been creeping into our sexual routine. Sometimes as foreplay, and sometimes he would finish in my mouth before sex. He would then start licking my vagina for a while, before he gets hard again.
During the days I work and when I get home, I clean and look after the place. When he gets home and sees me tiered and cooking, he starts touching me, caressing my breasts, grabbing my ass and even reaching round and grabbing my hoohaa (vagina). I always push him away, but he doesn’t care and keeps trying it. Sometimes I have to slap him and this worked for some time.
One Saturday afternoon after we went out shopping we can home, and I decided to cook and bake. While I was in the kitchen prepping, he came in and started grabbing on me and was all over me. I would tell him to stop but he would not listen. I tried to push hime off, with no luck. He then bent me over forcefully, and pulled my panties down. He got down and sucked on my pussy, and thrusted himself inside me. He was so horny, no amount of pleading would stop him. He came for a few seconds, waited a few seconds, and then pulled my panties up, got a drink and went back into the living room.
I did not know what to make of it and even though I liked it, I did not want him thinking he could do whatever he wants to me. I did not bring the situation up at all and ignored it.
A few days later he was working from home, and one morning while doing the laundry, he called me up to his office. He was sitting there behind the 2 monitors, in a grey t-shirt. He called me over and started kissing me. I though this was an apology for a few days ago. The kissing went on for a while and I enjoyed it. He then asked for a blowjob and I didn’t really want to. I was busy doing housework, felt down and was not in the mood. He did not stop asking, and I continued to say no.
He backed down a little and instead asked for a handjob. I agreed. As I got his dick in my hand, and went up and down his shaft, he asked me to put his dick in my mouth just a little, to lubricate his dick. I said no, but he pleaded so much I gave up. I got down on my knees and got ready to take the tip of his penis into my mouth. When I got the tip in, he put one of his hands at the back of my head and the other under my chin. Then he started to slowly put more and more of his dick down into my mouth and down my throat. I tried to push him out but he went back and then thrust forward almost making me choke.
I tried to push him away, but he really gripped my head and started to thrust back and forth. This went on for what seemed like hours. Finally he came, and when he finished he was complementing me and kissing me and was acting weird. I think he felt guilty for what he did, but I was shocked and angered. I stormed out and heard him say don’t be like that. My throat ached and I really did not enjoy it.
That afternoon he pinned me onto the bed, took my clothes off and had his way with me. It was kinda hot but I did not understand why he was doing what he was doing and not taking my feelings into consideration. I tired to talk to him but he says it’s because he loves me and that is his way of showing his love. Every time I give him a blowjob he thinks its okay to go as deep as he needs. When I tell him no, he doesn’t listen.
I don’t know what to do. I feel he will keep having his way with me, and keep forcing me to have sex and give him blowjobs.
Please pack you things and leave.
As a husband that cares and respects his wife very much, it made me angry reading this. This man does not see you as you are called or the things you do. To him, you are 3 holes waiting to be pounded. and im a bit worried when i keep reading “oh but it felt good, oh it was hot thou”. You think is good to have someone have his way with you? Im not sorry when i say this, but you are to blame as much as he is for not establishing rules AND STICKING TO THEM. telling him hes hurting you and having him wail at you even harder is not just his fault, you decided from the beginning to let him get to that point cuz he probably kept trying things to see how far he could push it and eventually he said “fuck it”. You might not like hearing this part but for you to move on and find something better for you, you need to hear it and understand it. Weather you leave him or not is up to you but im just letting you know you can do better. and when you are ready to let the next one in (if you leave him), establish your boundaries right away. You can be as freaky as you like. The man will be as freaky as you let him be.
Your boyfriend is basically assaulting you. It is disgusting. Please run away from that relationship, you deserve better. How would he feel if you shoved a dick down his throat? It is nauseating. Run, honestly, run. He does not care about you, he is treating you like a plastic doll or a free prostitude. And you even clean and cook, he treats you like a slave.
Si vis pacem, para bellum.
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
Love can have many faces and forms. One can, naturally, kill, torture, rape and engage in cannibalism out of love. It is not automatically good. Hence the amount of love is negotiable.
(To expand on the question of amount, here’s a quote from All Medicines Are Poison by Melvin H. Kirschner: “Even water and air can be toxic in certain circumstances. Drinking too much water can wash vital chemicals, such as sodium and potassium, out of your body. That can cause weakness and bodily malfunctions. Breathing too rapidly can blow away essential levels of carbon dioxide and cause a person to be light-headed and even faint. The antidote is to breathe into a paper bag and restore the necessary carbon dioxide level.”)
Whether to accept this or that form of relationships is up to you. That being said, I’d think of this as an opportunity to up your game in communication. One pointer is to understand the principles of The Wheel of Consent, https://youtu.be/auokDp_EA80. Another is to engage with the fascinating subject of negotiation itself. Here’s what I’ve googled up on negotiation just now: https://youtu.be/-xwG3QLyslc. It reminds me that the rules in a relationship can change, you can try this and that and renegotiate terms.